Saturday, 5 April 2014

Is it fair and right? Think again, please.

Saw yet another photograph published on social media, the owner of the social media account with the person he/she is helping, befriending or supporting. The person who are dependent on the owner of the social media account, poor, less fortunate, old, weak or suffering with disabilities. 

I understand that very few of us are able to work or volunteer in the social service sector without a motive. Fulfilling a calling, satisfying a passion, paying forward, seeking an income, filling up our free time, upgrading our social status, enhancing our image and looking for a partner are some motives I have seen and heard. I also understand that it is reasonable to collect memories of that part of our life involve with the social service sector. The certificates we received, recognition from the organisation and photographs in this part of our life journey. 

But I cannot understand the reason behind posting photographs of you and those you are helping or supporting in the social media. Or rather, I cannot tolerate the motive of people posting photographs of themselves with their beneficiaries in Facebook, Twitter and Google+!

It is not uncommon to hear excuses that the beneficiaries had agreed to have his or her photographs taken.


The person who looks weak, helpless, dependant make an informed decision to have his/her photographs circulated in social media to your friends, and friends of friends? The person agreed to be portraying to be weak, helpless and dependant just to uplift your image of a person with good heart, sacrificing your life for him/her?

To start with, most of them don't even have the exposures, knowledge and cognitive ability to understand the implications of having that photograph taken. What's more, are you there for his or her entire life? You only contribute towards part of his life. What rights do you have to use him/her and belittle him/her?

What's your motive in posting that photograph? 

If you are unaware of the implications and just wanted to collect memories of your life, may I then suggest that you not circulate that photograph? 

Thanks for taking some time to read this posting. 

Saturday, 29 March 2014

Jump, smile, laugh and get going.

Oh... my poor blog, I am sorry for neglecting you for such a long time. You know, this crazy daddy had been pretty busy recently. It started with some unhappy events, and then spiced up with series of happy moments. Thereafter, you know, I sort of got lazy. Ok, ok, I am always lazy, I know. When I finally ready to write again, another wave of surprises strike me! Not only did a big fat rat appear just outside my door, I am also called at 3am to assist with an incident!!!

Phew~ I got nothing to do with that incident. But it is exciting, scary and yes, I now believe that the scene in drama series can be real because I experienced it. Haha…

Am I affected?

Yes, I am but I am coping well. I am just very concerned and affected by people around me. It must be pretty hard for them. Especially for my 2 baobei (宝贝 aka. loves one) at home. 

Ok, the sun is finally up. What happened during the past few weeks just makes the happy moments more precious and memorable. Jump, smile, laugh and get going. The Sun is up and I am just not going to be affected by the dark clouds. Are you? 

Going to share some of my happy moments here...

Walking on my way to a briefing venue for work related matters, I bumped into an old but healthy couple in their early 60s. In sports attire, they seem to have just completed their morning jog, sweating but not panting. What catches my attention was the sight of the old couple healthy lifestyle and show of affection towards each other. 

Ah... yes, I followed them. Well, not intentionally as I happened to be going on the same direction. No, no... I am not going to the market. I really meant the place I am heading is just after the market, where the couple is heading. Hey, come on!!!

Err... ok. In case, you know, in case you think I enjoy stalking people, I am not. I am just addicted to simple and happy people. 

Few days later, while celebrating 小tz and my birthday at a famous restaurant that serve everything from the sea, the waiter came back with a 10% discounted bill. He said he gave us the discount because we are celebrating our birthday. 小tz and yt suggested that we should bring along a cupcake and a candle next time when we visit the restaurant again. 

# Facepalm #

No, No... I am not going to mention the name of that restaurant. Not unless they pay me for the advertisement. 

Wait long long right? I know, I know. I am still waiting ma... haha.

I drew the cartoon of our family portrait while we are taking a break during 小tz’s March school holiday. One of those crazy moments I had with 小tz. Haha...

Yeah, yt still looks like a witch. She told me that many years ago when I drew our faces on the walkway along the Singapore River outside Esplanade when she was still my girlfriend. Now, I have 2 witches in my drawing. But they are sweet switches that bring happy magically moments into my life.

Well… got to start improving my skills.  ;-)

Reaching home on 5 Mar 2014, I received my birthday present. A smartwatch! Nope, it is not Omate Truesmart, it is not Apple's iWatch and definitely not Google's Gem. It’s a paper watch handmade by 小tz and it is still sitting in my tray with my wallet and mobile phone. 

Sad, crying and/or depressed, you still need to face life. Why not be happy, smile, laugh and enjoy every single moment. It either makes you stronger or happier. 

Tuesday, 4 February 2014

I don't eat rotten apples. No. Not even forced.

Is it necessary?

Heard a hurtful statement about me few weeks back. It was a reported statement by the other person, who heard it from another person. In summary, it's a rumor.

I am hurt and disappointed.

Regardless of how hard I tried not to think about it, I can't. I just cannot understand how one can't differentiate things like:
"Chong Beng doesn't eat fruits." to
"Chong Beng doesn't eat apples." to
"Chong Beng doesn't eat rotten apples".
Can you?

What's the problem if I don't eat rotten apple? First, it is my personal choice and second, it's rotten. OMG!!! The person eats rotten apple? It would be worst if the person doesn't even eat fruits to start off.

Will I change based on the reported advice?

First, I am not even one. How to change?!?! Then, why should I change when doing that only please the person but go against my principle in life.
"If the decision don't benefit everybody. If the decision may hurt others. Why should I bother?"
What say you?

Saturday, 1 February 2014

Happy life. Simple living.

Started walking short distances again recently. Well, I wasn't successfully and still trying hard to reduce that the unwanted extra ingredient in me - fats.

Similar to previous experiences, walking always bring me lots of pleasant surprises. With the need to look at where I am going, less time is spent staring on my mobile and more on observing the surrounding around me. In the process, I was rewarded with beautiful sight, both tangible and intangible. Well, let me explain...

Encounter 1

While walking to the MRT station near my house, I saw a pretty lady walking towards me. Yes, really pretty! No make-up, simple clothing and appealing features just like my wife (an important statement, haha...).

She smile at me!

I smiled back. Basic courteous right? Haha.... 

I overclocked my 486 MHz processor up in my head, trying hard to put a name to the face. Just when I got panic for not being able to address her by name when we are at arms length, she opened her mouth and said:
"Hello, John!" to the gentleman walking behind me.

Lesson learnt. Must remember to bring along a paper bag to cover my face the very next day. In case, you know, me trying to be like smart alec again. Hahaha...

That's an example of beautiful tangible things I saw with my walk. Agreed?

Ok, ok. Please la, I don't always look at beautiful ladies. Don't frame me.  ;P

Encounter 2

A bicycle overtook me one day while I was walking. Catching up with them at the traffic junction, I saw a young Malay gentleman was riding the bicycle, his wife seated behind and his daughter seated on the handmade seats in front. I cannot help but assumed that they must be staying in a one room HDB flat nearby.

A very bias statement, I agreed. Bias with an envy nature and good intention. I cannot help as my mind was then thinking about this phrase:
"Happy life. Simple living."

The scene of the couple talking to each other was so pleasant, soothing and it just made me smile from within. The beautiful thoughts of movie scenes of people staying in village, in timber houses with plantation just outside their houses flashes in my memory.

The funny thing is why we always link happy life to simple living. The type of living where possession were kept to a minimum of what one needed, not one wanted. I suppose, when we get richer, we forget about the way of living and get so used to pampering ourselves with materialistic rewards. Our wants gets bigger and we spend more time, trying to get more money to get what we wanted. In the process, we forget what is happiness, forget to care and will not hesitate to hurt anybody that block our way.

See... I started nagging again. Haha...

Ok, you can be rich and yet happy. Try it!


You know. Ask your heart.   _/|\_